What Is Your WHAT: Discover The One Amazing Thing You Were Born To Do by Steve Olsher

Author:Steve Olsher [Olsher, Steve]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Wiley

Accepting the Sufficiency paradigm shift requires a substantial commitment because we're so used to expecting our peace and contentment to come from outside of ourselves.

I encourage you to start with your most important relationship—be it your spouse, your child, a parent, a sibling, or a best friend. Look at your relationship from a place of peace and contentment.

If you want to be happy with your spouse, as Dr. Laura Schlessinger says, “start now by becoming the kind of partner you'd want to come home to.” Give the one you love a massage, cook dinner, encourage your spouse to take a long bubble bath, or pick up the dry cleaning. Whatever it is you know the love of your life wants, do it.

The idea is to shift your approach from waiting for certain things to happen, to feeling and acting in that manner now and enjoying this positive state of mind. You'll be amazed at how often this results in achieving your desired objective.

Don't get me wrong: this will take a consistent effort on your part.

If you've been rude to your spouse for 20 years, you're going to get a funny look when you offer to rub her feet. Stick with it.

Tell your spouse about the depth of your love and that you want your relationship to clearly reflect it. You got married for better or worse. Make it for the better. Envision what the relationship should ideally be for the both of you, and then go out and create it. This process will work effectively in every aspect of your life.

There's a restaurant in Chicago named Ed Debevic's that's famous for the way its servers interact with its customers. They have fun, putting themselves fully into their work. Almost anywhere else in the world they'd be just servers. At this restaurant, they're performers. It's all about perspective.

To be clear, The Sufficiency Theory isn't advocating complacency in any aspect of your life. By no means am I suggesting you sit in a dead-end job or maintain a relationship that isn't working. I am, however, imploring you to implement The Sufficiency Theory before you throw in the towel.

Realigning your perspective doesn't mean denying yourself your objectives. On the contrary, living as if you've already achieved your goals vastly increases your chances of reaching them.

You have the power. Your happiness, or your misery, is yours to control. Put The Sufficiency Theory to work and your life will forever benefit. Just remember:

The destination is the road. The journey is the destination.

Life-Altering Principle #3: The Sufficiency Theory—Takeaways

Striving for external gratification prevents you from maintaining a feeling of contentment derived from who you are and what you do.

Stop drawing lines in the sand. Happiness is not a destination that can be reached by attaining select milestones.

Sufficiency doesn't translate to complacency, nor does it mean denying yourself your objectives.

Shift your approach from waiting for certain things to happen in order to feel a certain way to feeling and acting that way now. Surprisingly often, this will spur the results you desire to happen.

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